Bakit Umiikli na ang Pasensya ko? Dealing w/' Mom Rage & Mom Guilt

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Bakit Umiikli na ang Pasensya ko? Dealing w/' Mom Rage & Mom Guilt
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Does anyone feels like out of place or there's no constant atmosphere when couples lives with the in-laws in one house? Just curious because I lived in my in-laws once then I had this feeling like his family's always observing my movement and it makes me feel that all my movements are wrong to them even if they're not saying anything. Like for example: when the child's father isn't around for 4 hrs and so on so forth then the atmosphere changes fast that I can feel the negativity and a bit hot surrounding around me.even if the weather's cold. Because it all started when I was 6 months preggy, it was early in the morning when I heard my MIL says my name just once in low tone of voice while talking to her daughter because they thought that I'm not awake yet but then, when they saw me walking towards the cr in distant they stopped and a minute later my MIL walks outside like nothing happened. I don't know what to do, because whenever my hubby is at home my MIL treated me well and talking some stuff about life but when his not around my MIL doesn't talk to me, when she does its only one sentence like: "you done eating?" and after that it's like "ah ok reaction". What's the problem? Am I the problem because I didn't finish my studies yet? (Because all my hubby's siblings are already a degree holder also him) Because if they hate me by not having a degree I guess I'll have to rush my studies by shifting easier course. If that's what they want for the sake of my own. I don't know what to do, I feel like I'm starting to hate them but I don't want to express it. I don't want my hubby get hurt cuz I know he knows better than me because it's his mother and his her son. I'll have to carry this burden in me but couldn't help myself anymore that's why I need some advice maybe by this, I can have some peace of mind and start collecting something that could help me coop up the main problem and start solving or correcting what's the error. I really need your advice

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i'm tired of my lazy husband...i'm the breadwinner of our family. my husband works but only part-time. since i have the higher pay, i pay for everything. he doesn't contribute much to the household expenses. i'm getting frustrated already. we met in college. we graduated from the same course. he comes from a well-to-do family while i had to work to finish schooling. he had baon up until the time we got married. i was lucky enough to find a good job. he would always look for work but eventually quits every time. he says he is not happy or that he doesn't like his boss. i would nudge him to find a stable job since we already have a child together. he says he is looking but most of the time i see him watching netflix or playing ml. he does take care of our baby and loves our baby so much. he is good to me. he doesn't cheat or anything like that. but on special occasions, i only get a greeting. he doesn't even try to save up to buy me flowers. i'm physically and emotionally drained from working. i'm losing my respect for him. to be honest, i want to leave him already. i'm at my breaking point.

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7mo ago

I talked to him about my rants and he said he's willing to travel daily from his work to us, Caloocan to Cavite so he can assist me with our son, because besides having sleep deprivation, I am also so tired physically and mentally. We honestly dont have enough budget for his daily transpo. I dont know what to prioritze, our budget limitation or my mental and physical health feeling burn out working and looking after our 8 month old son. :/

I'm always irritated after birth he always play on his computer My partner works full-time to support us and our son and when he is finish at work he just wants to unwind. I'll ask him to briefly hold the baby or play with him while I pump breast milk but he's never that happy about it and so I don't feel comfortable asking for more help. Our son is super fussy because he has tummy problems and by the end of the day I'm so exhausted from trying to sing to him rub his belly bounce him talk to him and do everything I can to keep him happy that I just need a little break. I don't know how to ask for this because I feel like my husband already does enough by going to work so I can stay home with our baby. I'm also getting resentful because he doesn't help much with him at all. Our son can't nap by himself because he's a super light sleeper and just has to be on the boob so even when he's napping I'm laying with him and I don't have time to do anything for myself. Which is okay I've accepted it but I think I need a little tiny break every once in awhile. How do I communicate this to my partner?

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Me and my kids (one is 5yo and the other is 4mos.) have been living with my in-laws while my husband is away, working. I really don't mind my MIL and Sis-in-law helping out especially with the baby, but I'm really feeling very possessive especially when baby is with SIL, acting like she's the mom, taking baby from me even when I don't ask her to.. Also, she's been spoiling my 5yo by buying her with so much stuff (hello junk food!); I really do appreciate it but I don't know why I'm feeling paranoid that they, especially my baby might become closer to her, she's able to make baby laugh more! :( I don't have problems with my own mom & sis but when it comes to my in-laws, it becomes a problem to me. We don't have any problem with each other but I don't know... I really hate this feeling. I don't know what to do. :(

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7mo ago

It's normal to feel that way. You are the mother and you want your children to be more close to you than everyone else. But you need to understand as well that aside from you, their grandma and tita loves them as well. Especially if they are the 1st apo. My sister also lives with us when she 1st gave birth, and were just so happy that we loved spoiling my niece. It is normal for titas to spoil their niece I guess. But dont worry, you are the mother and your bond with your children is at different level compared to titas, it cannot be surpassed. So whenever your feeling possessive or jealous, convert that feeling into gratefulness that aside from you, there are others who loves your children sincerely.

I am married to man for 4 years now. Before we got married I know he has a son from the first family. He said he will support the child even we are already married. Then, we got married without knowing he has his own plan. That he will continue his relationship to the mother of the child, means they still a family. I don't know what should be call to me, yes I am the legal wife but a mistress at the same time😥 In 4years of our marriage, they had additional 2 additional member of thier family. I don't know why I tolerate him. Giving me so much pain makes me mentally ill😥 I don't want to have a broken family, we have a daughter. He is a good father to our child. No questions of that. But time and priority are the big issue. I am thinking to let him go but I don't know how to make that happened😥

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simula ng magkaroon ako ng 2nd baby which is 10 mos. na sya. lagi ko napagbubuntungan yung first born ko. napapalo ko sya, nasasabihan ko sya ng hurtful words which is hindi tama. sa sobrang daming problema sa bahay feel ko naaapektuhan yung mga anak ko. yung pag iyak nila, naiinis ako, yung kakulitan. napapagod ako umiiyak na lang ako sa gabi, kapag nagdarasal ako o kaya matitigan ko mga anak ko nagsosorry ako ng malala. napakasama kong ina sa kanila. nakakapagod na ikaw lagi kumikilos sa bahay, hindi ko rin naman masisi yung asawa ko kasi call center work nya 9pm to 6am, pag uwi kakain kami ng almusal tas matutulog na sya. gigising lang sya ng 1pm para maghatid tas tulog ulit. gigising ng before 6 para bumili ng ulam. ako lahat gumagawa sa bahay, napapagod na ako. feel ko hindi ko deserve to.

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7mo ago

ganyan exactly ang feeling k mommy i feel helpless and irritated and tired all the time

I feel angry when my husband is trying to get our baby while crying while I'm doing my best to try and make our baby comfortable but I just can't . The other night, I walked out because of that. Yesterday I shook my baby a little, I know it's harmless but I know the feeling is not right. I am afraid that if this continues, that there will come a time that I will hurt my son physically. I don't know if I am the only one feeling these things. I read a little about post partum depression, I read something about that if you feel like you wanted to hurt yourself or your baby that it's already a sign. I already did the first one, I do not want to come into the state that I will also hurt my son. If anyone is reading this please help me.

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Hello, I'm 21 and 3 months pregnant. This is my first baby. I know the first trimester is very critical for the development of my baby but I've been really stressed and depressed since the very beginning of my pregnancy. It's because I feel like a failure for being pregnant this early. My family was really disappointed with me but eventually accepted the baby and supports me since I still don't have a job but I already graduated last April this year. Sometimes, I can't help to be depressed because my pregnancy was very sudden and I feel like I won't be successful because of what happened to me ? I also don't want to feel this way since it will affect my baby. I need some advices mommies. Thank you.

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Sobrang tired ko na from all the stress and everyone is just putting me down and sobrang di ko na kaya minsan i just wanna leave pero di ko din maiwan dito coz ang layo ng family ko talaga from where my partner lives,di ko na naexperience yung care from my mom talaga even from his because not all in laws are the same,sobrang home sick ko na its been years na since ive last seen them and never man lang nya naisip to go visit my family,kaya lahat ng pain na nararamdaman ko i keep them all to myself I dont tell anyone I cant even vent out sa iba coz majujudge lang ako kasi ganun mindset nila. cant even ask for help dito or kahit nakikita nilang hirap ako wala lang...😥 Im burned out na.

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7mo ago

Thank you po 💗😊 Since ive join this app,everything i need to know bout parenthood makes sense now,will keep that in mind,I guess I really need to get out more💗😊👍

Lagi ako naiinis sa anak ko lately kaka9 months nya lang. Mula kasi nung nagkasakit sya around end ng september. Nahhirapan na sya matulog lagi. Naggising ng alangan na oras. 1am 2am 3am. Haii di ko na alam gagawin ko masisiraan na ko ng ulo kasi kulang na kulang sa tulog e dapat diba mas umookay na tulog nila by this age. Hai di ko alam ang gagawin. Nasstress na ko sakanya lagi ko nasisigawan. I need help please. Below is her sleep sched 3x nap in a day 30mins to 1hour (nakadede/latch habang tulog or gusto karga lagi) 6 30pm to 7 30 pm sleep time 4am to 5am wake up time(ngayon 2am 3am na) Exclusive breastfeeding direct latch no bottle / pacifier Very fussy sya lately haiii

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