We haven't had sex for 6 months now and our sexual activity has reduced, especially after the baby was born. Is it okay?

The most common sexual issue that women have postpartum is a lack of desire. The incidence of low libido at 6 months postpartum is 44%. However, only 10% reported being bothered by their lack of desire. For a lot of women, just knowing that it’s normal to not feel like swinging from the chandeliers when they are 6 months postpartum, is reassuring. Usually after the first couple of encounters the pain will decrease and you should enjoy lovemaking again. If you enjoy sex when you have it and it doesn’t hurt, that’s a great start. It’s OK that you don’t necessarily spend all day thinking about it. Attempt to set aside a scheduled day and time for intimacy. Notice I said ‘intimacy’ and not just sex. For women, it is important to have time to connect with her partner, to help her feel more amorous. And for any guys reading this: helping with the laundry and letting the new mom take a nap is the BEST form of foreplay. While it’s normal to not feel super sexy in the postpartum phase, things will get better. Most women are back in the swing of things by about 3 months, but if you continue to experience pain and lack of sexual enjoyment at 6 months, follow up with your doctor for help.

I think there is no right or wrong answer. It is good to maintain regular sexual activity for married couple as not only does sex helps to improve a couple relationship, it also a good exercise to relieve stress. However, a couple should not be too stressed about not having sex after 6 months as it is normal that sex activity reduces after child birth. Often married couple get too caught up with taking care of baby and daily commitment and may neglect their sex life. It is recommended that couple let someone else handle the baby once in awhile to enjoy couple time such as late night dating to create the mood for sex.

Don't be discouraged. When I had my first child, I did not even dare to have sex for 9 months as I was afraid my wounds have not healed completely and I would get pregnant again which we are not prepared. On top of that, I was so dead tired from taking care of my firstborn. Sex is the last thing I would want coz I was sleep deprived. My hub was understanding and he would self relieve.

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